“I used to be really good at remembering things but now, things like names, just don’t seem to stick anymore.” Mr Someone-you-know-maybe-even-you…?!
Come on in, take a seat, join the club, here’s your membership card, you’re in it for life…or are you? Forgetting peoples’ names, a lot, can start to get embarrassing. Either blame it on ageing and get used to it or, try something different! And because we like you and want you to succeed in life, we have selected six tricks to help you do that thing that seems to be so difficult to do these days, remember names!! Very useful for those important moments in business, meeting new girlfriend’s friends or starting a new job – after all, first impressions count!
Trick One: A popular method appropriately called FACE
Focus, Ask, Comment and Employ.
Focus: Lock in on the person’s face.
Ask: Ask a question about his name (“Are you a Rose or just Rosie?”)
Comment: Say something about the name and cross-reference it in your head (Wow, what an interesting name!)
Employ: Put the name to use, “Very nice to see you, Rose” to cement it in your memory.
Trick Two: Repetition. You can do a lot of ground work in your head, better in there than out loud. Repeat their name as soon as possible after you have been introduced. You might sound a little over keen, but better than not remembering their name at all, right?
Trick Three: Find The Trigger. It’s like the association game – allocate things to people to help cement it more. Andrew runs a shop, Mary works in marketing. If you don’t play the game quite quickly after, it’s not going to stick. Yes you feel like you’re back at primary school, and you know why, because you are learning!
Trick Four: Word Play. Mnemonic tools help do the work for you (Dan has a van) work nicely, as does alliteration (Ben from Bristol).
Trick Five: Speak Up. If you find you have forgotten their name already, once you’ve opened conversation, don’t be nervous about asking them again. You would have charmed them with such wit and intellect that they will be flattered you asked again.
And our favourite one of all…
Trick Six: When you forget someone’s name, say “What was your name again?” They’ll respond with their first name, albeit somewhat hurt that you forgot. Then emphatically reply, “No, no, your last name.” Much relieved, they’ll happily oblige. You now have their first and last name without insulting them. Works every time!
So next time you are at that important meeting, party or indeed meeting the extended in-law family, remember (!) to take these with you.
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